- 1. Develop your positive qualities
- 2. Learn empathy and gratitude
- 3. Show leadership qualities
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There are many definitions of a strong person. Most often, this concept is associated with qualities such as honesty, responsibility and self-control. These tips will help you build on your strengths and tighten up your weaknesses.
1. Develop your positive qualities
Don’t let what you say and what you do. Do not try to imitate emotions that you do not feel: people often notice falsehood. For example, if you are annoyed that your half is working hard, find the strength to say, “I’m sorry I’m so angry and don’t support you. I think it’s because I just miss you. “
Raise your awareness
Mindfulness allows you to explore yourself on a deeper level, to understand how your ideas and reactions are formed, and this is an important stage in working on your character. Set aside time for daily reflection when you can ask yourself questions such as “Why did I react this way to these words?” and “What can I do to avoid a similar conflict in the future?”
Meditation can also help raise awareness. Now there are many books, applications and master classes for those who want to make meditation their daily practice, but lack free time. Use them!
Start with the everyday little things. For example, set a goal for yourself to control your spontaneous food intake. The next time you decide to have an overnight snack, stop and ask yourself if you’re really hungry. Then drink a glass of water. Manage your impulses consciously and introduce small daily habits into your life, such as making your bed in the morning. This will help you develop discipline that will come in handy in other areas of your life.
Be true to your principles
If your actions are not in line with your beliefs, you will always feel uncomfortable. Know and respect your values and moral principles. Make decisions based on them and do not give in to pressure from the outside.
Always analyze your solutions in terms of their fit with your internal settings.
Take responsibility for your mistakes and correct them
Everyone is wrong, and the way you deal with the consequences of your wrong decisions reflects your character. Admitting your mistakes is an indicator of strength, not weakness. Don’t be afraid to apologize if the situation calls for it, or to make up for any damage caused. Saying, “I’m sorry I misappropriated your idea. I confess to everyone that she is yours ”, you will show the strength of your character and build relationships with others based on trust and mutual respect.
It is perfectly normal to be annoyed in some situations. But patience and endurance can and should be trained. For example, if your colleague is not as quick to grasp the information as you would like, think about it, maybe this is due to the fact that you do not explain clearly enough? Or maybe he just does not have your technical background and you should reduce the use of technical terms? Learn to ask questions and don’t jump to conclusions.
Ask for an honest assessment
Sometimes it can be difficult to be objective about yourself. If you are serious about working on your character, ask someone you trust to give you an honest, constructive assessment. Ask about your strengths and weaknesses, thank you for the feedback, and start working on yourself.
2. Learn empathy and gratitude
Put yourself in the other person’s shoes
The capacity for compassion is at the core of strength of character. Try to imagine how other people are feeling. Maybe your friend recently lost a loved one, so he became sullen and irritable? Put yourself in his place, and you can understand the motives of his actions. And then it will become clear to you that now he needs not criticism, but friendly support.
Most people have an established system of prejudices – conscious or unconscious, many of which have nothing to do with reality. For example, the notion that people without higher education are not as smart as university graduates. Look around and you will find real examples that refute this belief.
Realizing your bias is the first step towards overcoming it.
Learn to feel and express gratitude
Gratitude is an important step towards realizing yourself and the world around you. Make it a part of your daily life and see how your character changes. Every day before bed, think of three things that you are grateful for. You can even keep a diary, writing down your thoughts in it.
Also, remember to express gratitude to the people who deserve it. A simple “thank you,” or a lengthy comment about how much you value the other person’s actions, helps you see a strong personality in you.
3. Show leadership qualities
Speak Up Yourself and Let Others Speak Up
Dealing with shyness can be challenging, but your voice needs to be heard. Try to actively participate in work meetings, speak clearly and clearly, justify your point of view, and, sooner or later, others will begin to listen to you.
If you don’t have a problem with shyness, you may not notice how often you interrupt others and prevent them from speaking out. Showing restraint is also a sign of strength of character. Let others be heard and organize discussions often.
Be open to new things
Every time you learn something new, you shape your character. Don’t miss the opportunity to apply this principle in your personal life and in your work. You can tell your boss, “I would like to know more about the accounting part of our project. May I attend a meeting today on this issue? “
Feel free to ask for help
Some people think that asking for help is a sign of weakness. In fact, it is an indicator of the strength of your character, your ability to recognize and articulate your needs. Your requests should be specific and understandable. Instead of saying, “You don’t do anything around the house at all!”
Notice the strengths of others
Good leaders know that it is more effective to maintain the success of others than to underestimate it. Help people see their strengths and bet on them in team play. You might say, “You’re really good at making presentations. Do you want to speak on behalf of the department? “
Focus on your team’s success, not just yours. Approach collaboration from a “we” position, not “me”.
Learn to face challenges
Instead of ignoring the problem, find a way to solve it. Evaluate the situation objectively and avoid impulsive reactions. For example, suppose you run a department and one of your valuable employees leaves without warning. Do not be angry. Better think about how to get out of the situation. You will probably have to reallocate tasks among employees. Gather a team, explain the situation, and invite them to think about options together.